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New contribution to Totally Novel on writing, update on Sweet Sixteen Killer

I've been pretty quiet lately on the blog, sorry about that. I've been laying mostly low, though I did recently begin contributing to a new website for writers and readers called Totally Novel. My first contribution for members of the site is a post I titled 3 things that prevented me from writing a novel. To read the post, sign up for a free trial. Take a look around and if you don't wanna stay, don't renew membership. That said, it's a pretty cool effort being put together by a former Google+ member like myself. As a matter of fact there are several members on the site from the old Google+ days. (Side note: there is a free membership option)
I will be contributing to the Totally Novel blog bi-monthly for now. My next addition will be in August. I'm super excited for the site and I hope you can come join us and become a part of the groups, forums, blog, workshops, and more. 
All that said, I haven't given up here. This is still my primary site and blog. 👊

Witnessing stupid behavior #abuse #childabuse #domesticabuse

Witnessing stupid behavior #abuse #childabuse #domesticabuse

LADY: (angrily yelling at kids from car in parking lot.) Do you hear me?!

I wanted to walk over, stick my head in the car, and say, "Yeah. Loud and clear."


In my life I have witnessed clear abusive, bullish, gas lighting behavior from parents to their children in public. I often find myself enraged and want to walk up and say something, or do something, but then I remember that part of the gas lighting experience is blaming everything on the victims. And then I realize, that if I walked up and said something to the parent, the kids would be blamed for it later and who knows the depth of depravity they'd endure for the embarrassment the parent felt.

What this means is that I usually coil back, because I don't want to make the children's lives more miserable.

But is that really the answer? Maybe they need that moment. Maybe they need to witness and hear from a third party that the behavior is unwarranted to help convince their minds that they are not alone. I'm not sure what the answer is in this dilemma.

But one thing is certain, from one abused child to another, I know how important it is to learn that the behavior is not normal. That they are not alone. That others do care. And most importantly, this time of pain will pass.

What do you think? Sound off in the comments.


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