How do writers cope with rejection?


Writers receive a great deal of rejection in life. All writers are convinced their stories are the cotton candy of carnival desires. That their stories are so savory and sweet that they melt on your tongue when devoured. And why not? Writers bleed words into sentences, into paragraphs, into chapters, into sections, into parts, into books, into series of books. After hours, days, weeks, months, years of slaving away at the story, they don't want to submit stories and have them unceremoniously rejected. In the least someone could make a big deal out of it, but nope. Just. Rejection.

So how do we cope? Well, as you know (probably), you're not supposed to respond/react to rejection. Even though, you really want to respond. You really want to say something. Because, how dare they?

Coping with rejection in writing is akin to coping to rejection in dating, I'd say. You feel like an utter pile of mush when that Sally Pinkerton won't return your calls. But any rate, this isn't about Sally Pinkerton, no. This isn't about her, and how she should die a thousand deaths. No, this is about rejection in publishing. I think. Maybe.

But, one way I love coping with rejection is by watching the embedded video. It's a scene from Black Books, an English series that has since gone off the air. In the scene, the main character reads a rejection letter, and then writes a rejection letter rejecting the rejection letter. It's a thing of beauty. It helps ease the pain. The pain that could only be fully eased if Sally Pinkerton would just return my phone calls, it's not that hard! You pick up the phone, you find me in your contact list and call me. CALL ME. It's not hard.


So how do you cope with rejection? Does Sally Pinkerton return your phone calls?